My boyfriend went on a dating website


You have a right to know what’s going on in your marriage!Invariably if the person I’m speaking to has been single at any point in the last decade, then yes, they know exactly what I mean, because if there’s one scenario that’s become endemic amongst myself and my peers, it’s our inability to define a relationship after the first five or six dates. Is it too soon to refer to someone as your boyfriend? If you’ve been on 12 dates with someone, you really don’t still want to be seeing other people do you?However, according to a male friend, it’s just the way some men are.“I’ve never willingly called any of the women I’ve been out with my girlfriends – even the ones I’ve lived with.Three days after I had our daughter, he was on two of his ex girlfriends’ Facebook pages! He thinks I overreact but I don’t because it hurts me! Hides his phone whenever someone calls and when I ask who it is, he says “don’t worry about it, you’re too nosy!



One friend (who wishes to remain anonymous lest her non-boyfriend reads this) explains: “I’ve been seeing this guy for four months now – we’re dating and see each other a couple of times a week.I always have to be really pushed into making it more serious – but that’s just the way I am, it’s nothing personal.” I’m not sure I buy this – how would his (lucky, lucky) girlfriend feel if she heard him saying, outright, that he hadn’t been too fussed about her when they got together, and that they’re only together now because of her tenacity?The thing is, you can make any excuse you like when you really fancy, or even love someone.Online dating, and our ability to be in constant contact with everyone we know via text, email or social media make us unwilling to commit to one person, and more likely to want to hedge our bets. In an article I wrote earlier this year about modern dating, I used the example of a man I’d been sleeping with for over a year, who got cross when I referred to him as my boyfriend.